Martin Seligman and Positive Psychology
Martin Seligman coined the term - Positive Psychology. It focuses on positive functioning of human being.
He suggested self-help techniques:
Dr Martin Seligman is the founder of Positive Psychology and explores the latest research in his new book Flourishing. One of his key areas of work has been the infusing of Positive Psychology training with the 1.1 million officers of the US army.
Rather than focusing on adding additional funds to programs for injured soldiers, his response was to create a training system for the army where officers can become better, stronger and happier people.
Why do this?
Because the stronger and more emotionally resilient you are, the better you will be able to respond to pressure, crisis and tragedy. Emotionally resilient people after a traumatic event still ‘go through hell’ but rather than remaining traumatised for years afterwards, they actually grow to become emotionally stronger.
Now does that mean you should forget about assisting the chronically traumatised? Of course not! They will always and should always receive care. But the more people you can strengthen before such a possible event, the better outcomes you will have.
And of course there are so many other side effects to being happier as well.
2. You are capable of so much more than you realize.
Professor Ellen Langer, author of Counterclockwise has done some remarkable research around the power of possibility and turning back the clock. She spoke of how when expectations are increased, abilities increase.
Her most famous study involved a group of 80 year old men who were used to doing very little for themselves. She took them to a house designed to look and feel like life in the 1970′s and in just one week, the men significantly and substantially improved in all major areas of life.
Mobility, memory, happiness, strength, self-reliance and more.
Another quick example of shifting expectation and breaking patterns involved the classic eye chart. She found that just by reversing the order of the chart, so the little letters were at the top and the big letters were at the bottom, many people who previously could not see the small letters now could.
3. Well-being needs to become the new measure of prosperity.
The global financial crisis has not only devastated current generations, it is likely to affect future generations. For the first time in Western culture, the majority of the upcoming generation are likely to be financially worse off than previous one.
But then, is money the goal of life. There is a push for well-being to be the new measure of prosperity. Finances are still important and always will be, but overall well-being is the real goal in my opinion. This issue is starting to be taken seriously. The UK for instance has committed to measuring citizen well-being and implementing policies and programs to cultivate it.
There is also numerous pieces of research stating that money does not equal happiness. During the conference, the relationship between money and happiness was explored by Ross Gittens.
4. Dying is a part of life, so be prepared to die well.
People who live well, die well. The more peace you cultivate in your life, the more peaceful your death is likely to be. According to Sogyal Rinpoche who wrote the best-seller The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying and mind body medicine pioneer, Dr Ian Gawler, death is the most important part of life and the aim is to live well and die well.
Considering death is generally the most taboo subject in the world, by facing the reality of it and being prepared for it (as it will happen at some point), you can move towards a peaceful transition.
How do you want to die? Think about it, because when you can answer that honestly, you just might learn how to live better too.
5. Active positive relationships are the key to success, happiness and harmony.
I’ve always said that the most important thing in life is the cultivation of quality relationships. Everything is about relationships. Success in business, work, intimacy, friendship, family and even the self (the way you treat yourself is crucial)… is determined by the quality of your relationships.
Presidential award winning researcher Shelly Gable argues that the key to fantastic relationships is not about fighting less, but actively praising more. In fact, in her research, this was the number 1 factor in regards to whether people remain together or not.
Think of it like a bank account. Everytime you praise, encourage and show an active interest in your partner and their successes, you are making large deposits. So when there are arguments (withdrawals), you’re still going to have a positive balance.
So how do you do this? I think of it like positive story telling and discussion of skilled applications. For example, if your partner has just been promoted, the best response is not just to say congratulations, but to also enquire about why they deserved it, what skills they utilized to achieve it, and how they will continue to use those skills and abilities to grow in the future. In other words, create and share a positive story together about the victory and the positive future success that are likely to occur as well.
Seligman suggested PERMA model.
and resiliency wheel model.
Some of his famous speeches are flourinshing,
positive psychology
Optimism
Learned optimism
how to assess PERMA
Rabindranath Tagore composed almost 2000 songs. Gitabitan is the collection of songs composed by Tagore. The songs provide psychological support. They help us how to be fully functioning person with positive strengths and characters. The songs provide several self-help procedure of behaviour control with lot of cognitive resources.
Here, I find similarity between Martin Seligman, the founder of positive psychology and Tagore. One example overcoming death.
To Seligman, Dying is a part of life, so be prepared to die well. People who live well, die well. The more peace you cultivate in your life, the more peaceful your death is likely to be.
In Gitanjali, Tagore wrote :
Thou hast left death for my companion
And I shall crown him with my life.
Thy sword is with me to cut asundar my bonds,
and there shall be no fear left for me in the world.
From now I leave off all petty decorations,
Lord of my heart, no more shall there be
for me waiting and weeping in corners,
no more shy and soft of demeanour.
Thou hast given me thy sword for adornment.
No more doll’s decorations for me !
Tagore was awarded Noble Prize in literature in 1913 for the book ' Gitanjali;.
Both Rabindranath Tagore and Martin Seligman composed self-help models of positive human functioning.
There is a history in life of Seligman as how he shifted from learned helplessness model to learned optimism.
While weeding in the garden, Seligman became perturbed and yelled at his daughter. In a keynote address to the North Carolina Psychological Association, Seligman described how his daughter sternly reminded him that she had not whined once since she had vowed to give up whining on her fifth birthday. If she was capable of giving up whining, she reasoned, her father should be able to " stop being such a grouch." Seligman started to think on learned optimism then.
Seligman coined the concept of learned helpless ness. He thought that depression occurs due to perceiving lack of control over the environment. Seligman discovered that when people feel they have no control over their situation, they tend to give up rather than fight for control. His research on helplessness and pessimism had important implications in the prevention and treatment of depression. Seligman's work researching learned pessimistic attitudes eventually led him to develop an interest in optimism, an interest that would eventually lead to the emergence of a new branch of psychology. In 1995, an important conversation with his daughter, Nikki, helped change the direction of his research. While weeding in the garden, Seligman became perturbed and yelled at his daughter. In a keynote address to the North Carolina Psychological Association, Seligman described how his daughter sternly reminded him that she had not whined once since she had vowed to give up whining on her fifth birthday. If she was capable of giving up whining, she reasoned, her father should be able to " stop being such a grouch." Seligman started to think on learned optimism then.
Tagore wrote 'Geetbitan' - a self-help book on awakening and control of consciousness. During his childhood, Tagore was reared with strict discipline, again lacking control over the environment. Tagore's feeling can be understood through his poem on bird in the cage or 'khanchar pakhi'. Tagore spent his time sitting on the window. He experienced nature - the light, small waves on the pond, rain droplets, leaf movement, the air, and the growth of plants. Tagore realized the consciousness by imposing figures on the changes in nature. He developed different analogies. His first recitation - jal pare, pata nore, pagla hatir matha nore. When rain drops on the leaf, it's movement is just like movement of head of abnormal elephant.
Life sketch of Rabindranath
http://antorik.com/dallas-bengali-magazine/2009/Page051_Rabindranath_SauriP.pdf
He suggested self-help techniques:
Dr Martin Seligman is the founder of Positive Psychology and explores the latest research in his new book Flourishing. One of his key areas of work has been the infusing of Positive Psychology training with the 1.1 million officers of the US army.
Rather than focusing on adding additional funds to programs for injured soldiers, his response was to create a training system for the army where officers can become better, stronger and happier people.
Why do this?
Because the stronger and more emotionally resilient you are, the better you will be able to respond to pressure, crisis and tragedy. Emotionally resilient people after a traumatic event still ‘go through hell’ but rather than remaining traumatised for years afterwards, they actually grow to become emotionally stronger.
Now does that mean you should forget about assisting the chronically traumatised? Of course not! They will always and should always receive care. But the more people you can strengthen before such a possible event, the better outcomes you will have.
And of course there are so many other side effects to being happier as well.
2. You are capable of so much more than you realize.
Professor Ellen Langer, author of Counterclockwise has done some remarkable research around the power of possibility and turning back the clock. She spoke of how when expectations are increased, abilities increase.
Her most famous study involved a group of 80 year old men who were used to doing very little for themselves. She took them to a house designed to look and feel like life in the 1970′s and in just one week, the men significantly and substantially improved in all major areas of life.
Mobility, memory, happiness, strength, self-reliance and more.
Another quick example of shifting expectation and breaking patterns involved the classic eye chart. She found that just by reversing the order of the chart, so the little letters were at the top and the big letters were at the bottom, many people who previously could not see the small letters now could.
3. Well-being needs to become the new measure of prosperity.
The global financial crisis has not only devastated current generations, it is likely to affect future generations. For the first time in Western culture, the majority of the upcoming generation are likely to be financially worse off than previous one.
But then, is money the goal of life. There is a push for well-being to be the new measure of prosperity. Finances are still important and always will be, but overall well-being is the real goal in my opinion. This issue is starting to be taken seriously. The UK for instance has committed to measuring citizen well-being and implementing policies and programs to cultivate it.
There is also numerous pieces of research stating that money does not equal happiness. During the conference, the relationship between money and happiness was explored by Ross Gittens.
4. Dying is a part of life, so be prepared to die well.
People who live well, die well. The more peace you cultivate in your life, the more peaceful your death is likely to be. According to Sogyal Rinpoche who wrote the best-seller The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying and mind body medicine pioneer, Dr Ian Gawler, death is the most important part of life and the aim is to live well and die well.
Considering death is generally the most taboo subject in the world, by facing the reality of it and being prepared for it (as it will happen at some point), you can move towards a peaceful transition.
How do you want to die? Think about it, because when you can answer that honestly, you just might learn how to live better too.
5. Active positive relationships are the key to success, happiness and harmony.
I’ve always said that the most important thing in life is the cultivation of quality relationships. Everything is about relationships. Success in business, work, intimacy, friendship, family and even the self (the way you treat yourself is crucial)… is determined by the quality of your relationships.
Presidential award winning researcher Shelly Gable argues that the key to fantastic relationships is not about fighting less, but actively praising more. In fact, in her research, this was the number 1 factor in regards to whether people remain together or not.
Think of it like a bank account. Everytime you praise, encourage and show an active interest in your partner and their successes, you are making large deposits. So when there are arguments (withdrawals), you’re still going to have a positive balance.
So how do you do this? I think of it like positive story telling and discussion of skilled applications. For example, if your partner has just been promoted, the best response is not just to say congratulations, but to also enquire about why they deserved it, what skills they utilized to achieve it, and how they will continue to use those skills and abilities to grow in the future. In other words, create and share a positive story together about the victory and the positive future success that are likely to occur as well.
Seligman suggested PERMA model.
and resiliency wheel model.
Some of his famous speeches are flourinshing,
Learned optimism
how to assess PERMA
Rabindranath Tagore composed almost 2000 songs. Gitabitan is the collection of songs composed by Tagore. The songs provide psychological support. They help us how to be fully functioning person with positive strengths and characters. The songs provide several self-help procedure of behaviour control with lot of cognitive resources.
Here, I find similarity between Martin Seligman, the founder of positive psychology and Tagore. One example overcoming death.
To Seligman, Dying is a part of life, so be prepared to die well. People who live well, die well. The more peace you cultivate in your life, the more peaceful your death is likely to be.
In Gitanjali, Tagore wrote :
Thou hast left death for my companion
And I shall crown him with my life.
Thy sword is with me to cut asundar my bonds,
and there shall be no fear left for me in the world.
From now I leave off all petty decorations,
Lord of my heart, no more shall there be
for me waiting and weeping in corners,
no more shy and soft of demeanour.
Thou hast given me thy sword for adornment.
No more doll’s decorations for me !
Tagore was awarded Noble Prize in literature in 1913 for the book ' Gitanjali;.
Both Rabindranath Tagore and Martin Seligman composed self-help models of positive human functioning.
There is a history in life of Seligman as how he shifted from learned helplessness model to learned optimism.
While weeding in the garden, Seligman became perturbed and yelled at his daughter. In a keynote address to the North Carolina Psychological Association, Seligman described how his daughter sternly reminded him that she had not whined once since she had vowed to give up whining on her fifth birthday. If she was capable of giving up whining, she reasoned, her father should be able to " stop being such a grouch." Seligman started to think on learned optimism then.
Seligman coined the concept of learned helpless ness. He thought that depression occurs due to perceiving lack of control over the environment. Seligman discovered that when people feel they have no control over their situation, they tend to give up rather than fight for control. His research on helplessness and pessimism had important implications in the prevention and treatment of depression. Seligman's work researching learned pessimistic attitudes eventually led him to develop an interest in optimism, an interest that would eventually lead to the emergence of a new branch of psychology. In 1995, an important conversation with his daughter, Nikki, helped change the direction of his research. While weeding in the garden, Seligman became perturbed and yelled at his daughter. In a keynote address to the North Carolina Psychological Association, Seligman described how his daughter sternly reminded him that she had not whined once since she had vowed to give up whining on her fifth birthday. If she was capable of giving up whining, she reasoned, her father should be able to " stop being such a grouch." Seligman started to think on learned optimism then.
Tagore wrote 'Geetbitan' - a self-help book on awakening and control of consciousness. During his childhood, Tagore was reared with strict discipline, again lacking control over the environment. Tagore's feeling can be understood through his poem on bird in the cage or 'khanchar pakhi'. Tagore spent his time sitting on the window. He experienced nature - the light, small waves on the pond, rain droplets, leaf movement, the air, and the growth of plants. Tagore realized the consciousness by imposing figures on the changes in nature. He developed different analogies. His first recitation - jal pare, pata nore, pagla hatir matha nore. When rain drops on the leaf, it's movement is just like movement of head of abnormal elephant.
Life sketch of Rabindranath
http://antorik.com/dallas-bengali-magazine/2009/Page051_Rabindranath_SauriP.pdf
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